“It’s the hardest thing to do, to look like them but feel like you.”
This song itself is great with a hook that will likely stay in your head for days but it’s the message here that stands out the most to me. It’s what inspired me to write about it in the first place. Seth has a great way of utilizing humor to tell stories and express emotion, as is perfectly displayed in “My Scene.” He talks about stoners and hippies and all the different types of people that he just can’t seem to relate to. It’s a funny story but by the end, he realizes that maybe he doesn’t need a scene to truly define who he is as a person.
Now I’ve grown up pretty lucky. My family has always given me everything that I needed to succeed. Although convincing them that moving to Los Angeles with no job to pursue a career in the music business was quite the challenge, they’ve been supportive through it all. But before me, no one in my family or circle of friends had ever even thought of music as anything other than a hobby. Sure, my sister was the first exposure I had to New Found Glory but she wanted to work in fashion (and does). My brother is currently in a touring band, so today we have plenty to chat about but back then, it was all video games and sports for him. My parents loved Earth, Wind & Fire so that’s about as far as that goes.
I remember being 15 years old and feeling completely alone, like nothing could ever possibly matter more to me than music. I was constantly seeking the friendship of others like me but had a hard time finding them. I tried to fit into various cliques along the way but nothing ever felt as good as slipping those earbuds in and losing myself to Brand New’s Deja Entendu did. Eventually I stopped trying to fit in. I kept quiet and put everything I had into building a life where I could talk about this love of mine forever.
Sometime in the past five years or so, I realized that fitting my taste into a particular world or scene doesn’t actually matter. Like, at all. I’m not a punk, I’m not a goth, I’m not a pop punk kid and I don’t care. My connection is with the music, whatever it may sound like. I fall in love with the song, with the words, with the message. I don’t need to fit into any particular community or scene in order to maintain that love and respect that I have for the music itself.
And if I happen to meet people who feel the same as I do along the way, then cool, I just made a couple new friends.